Role and Responsibility of Being a Father

This is Part 2 of my Articles on Father’s Day

Role and Responsibility of Being a Father

The role of being a Father is an awesome responsibility. So many of us, in the past, had to ” learn on the job!”

As I look back on my own experience, as the father of five, I can see many things I would have done differently.

If you were fortunate enough to have a loving and encouraging father who was a good role model, you are truly blessed. The chances are, that you in turn, will have the potential to be a good father yourself. It would be great if this was guaranteed.

One of the sad facts of life is that those, who had a father who was not a good role model, have a high risk of  perpetuating  the  poor parenting process.

Today there is so much information available on “Parenting; it is simply a matter of seeking it out.

Those of you who have young children or are looking forward to that exciting, though challenging experience, I would encourage you to get all the help and advice you can from responsible and reliable sources.

Remember there is no such thing as a natural or a perfect parent !

One of the most important keys to good fathering is to “Know yourself “. Know your strengths and your limitations

7 Keys to Being a Good Father

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1. Start early and don’t stop.  Be involved from the day your child comes home for the hospital.

2. Be a role model. Be open and transparent and lead by example.  Children will   recognise a phony very quickly.

3. Love unconditionally. You may not approve of certain behaviour but always “approve ” your child. Not only tell your child that you love him or her, but demonstrate that love;  show genuine affection

4. Teach your child values. Practice Honesty and Responsibility and Moral values

5.Be there for your child. One of the big problems today is the “absent father”. Physical absence is sometimes unavoidable, but emotional absence is another issue. Spend some quality time with your child

6. Be an encourager. Acknowledge and celebrate your child’s achievements.

7.Discipline is essential. An un-disciplined child is a confused child. Children need structure and to be given limits. If they break the rules, disciple  must be prompt, fair and have a reasonable limit.

I would recommend the book below, by  of one of the worlds leading experts on Child rearing and Family relationships,  as an excellent source of information to help you, my reader, to achieve your goals of “being a good father”

313632: The New Strong-Willed Child The New Strong-Willed ChildBy Dr. James Dobson / Tyndale HouseChildren are going to challenge authority to see where their boundaries lie. But, for the strong-willed child especially, defining those boundaries can be a full-time, frustrating task for parents. Take heart – with over 2 million copies sold and even more updated advice with this recent printing, this book has become a liberating staple for exasperated parents. Full of the proven, practical advice of Dr. James C. Dobson, you’ll find out what makes the strong-willed child tick, how you can shape their will without damaging their spirit, how to guide them successfully into adulthood and much, much more.

Some Excellent Quotes about being a Father

“Any man can be a Father but, it takes a special person to be called Dad !” (Unknown)

“Not every successful man is a good father. But every good father is a successful man”   (R Duval)

“A father who does not teach his son his duties, is equally guilty with the son who neglects them.” (Confucius)

“The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother” (Theodore M. Hesburgh)

“Teach a child to choose the right path and when he is older he will remain upon it.” (Proverbs 22:6 Living Bible).

In Part 3 of these articles for Father’s Day, I would like to give a short tribute to My Father

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